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“Dear Susan and Cynthia,Sending hugs and prayers on behalf of the entire Beatty family. Shirley was a dear friend of my parents and a wonderful...Read More »
1 of 6 | Posted by: Sue (Beatty) Cullen - Friend

“Susan, Cynthia and Family,We were sorry to hear of Shirley's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.I was so glad I was able...Read More »
2 of 6 | Posted by: Ruth Aldinger - Medfield, MA

“We were very fond of Shirley and enjoyed her friendship for many years at First Parish. We shared many conversations and laughs at the coffee hour...Read More »
3 of 6 | Posted by: Linda McKenzie - Friend

“Susan and Cynthia,As long time parishioners of First Parish, we can't help but feel that when we are able to once again worship together, there will...Read More »
4 of 6 | Posted by: Dave and Bonnie Blomquist

“Susan and Cynthia,I was so saddened to hear of your mom's passing. She was an amazing person. I was always struck by her strong independence and how...Read More »
5 of 6 | Posted by: Chris Dodge - Hopedale, MA

“Susan, Cynth and families, So sorry to hear of Shirl’s passing. She was a wonderful friend and neighbor to all Rices! She was a big part of our...Read More »
6 of 6 | Posted by: Dave Rice - Neighbor

DeFEO, Shirley (Smith), age 93, of Westwood MA died peacefully on March 11, 2021. She was born on November 3, 1927 in Medford, MA to A. Dudley and Doris (Hurlburt) Smith.
She was raised in Lexington, MA. After graduating from Lexington High School, she graduated from Chandler Secretarial School in Boston. She worked as a legal secretary in Dedham then worked at Record Data in Dedham and Westwood. Her favorite job was her part time job for 21 years at the Westwood Public Library till she retired in Feb. 2020.

She was a longtime resident of Westwood. She is fondly remembered for her strong independence. She always wanted to find new places, throughout New England, to visit. She spent many vacations on Cape Cod with family and loved the beach. She was always found in her yard gardening and talking with neighbors and friends. She was a member of First Parish Church for 60 years and volunteered many hours on several committees. She was an avid reader.

Shirley is survived by her two daughters, Susan Bourdon and husband Kevin of Waltham, VT and Cynthia Dowling, and husband Mark of North Attleborough, MA; six grandchildren, Christopher, and wife Miranda. Rampone; Mark Bourdon; Scott Bourdon; Alison, and husband Luke Russett; Harrison Dowling; and Jennifer Dowling; one great grandchild, Genevieve Rampone.

There will be no Visiting Hours and Burial will be private. A Memorial Service in celebration of Shirley's life will be held in late Spring and will be announced. Funeral arrangements are provided by the Holden, Dunn and Lawler Funeral Home, Westwood. Gifts in her memory can be made to VNA Hospice & Palliative Care in memory of Shirley DeFeo to support patient care at VNA Care, 120 Thomas St. ,Worcester, MA 01608 or via

Upcoming Funeral Services
Celebration will be held in late Spring and will be announced